I'll have to disagree.. with your disagreement if that makes sense. Not everything should be a public matter and it does not necessarily equal 'indulging in the uncertainties of a BRIAN'. I think it's respectfully giving privacy where privacy is due.
There is no such thing as privacy in online karaoke. At least not in open projects in which everyone can join. Those kind of projects are a public matter by nature. Everyone can see who signs up, everyone can look into everyoneâ€™s files, everyone can hear the end result of a mix. It â€“is- a public matter, thereâ€™s nothing private or secret about it. There is no need to create this temporary feeling of â€˜privacyâ€™ just for the sake of re-recordings.
Some matters are better off being discussed alone so the parties involved can say what they really want to say to each other.
Some matters indeed. If there is a problem between two people, then of course the discussion should happen through different media than a thread. But mere re-recordings donâ€™t require â€œhonest feelingsâ€ to be expressed. It doesnâ€™t involve the expression of a personal opinion. It is simple statement of the wishes the mixer has about how certain lines can be improved, whether someone was off-pitch, or doesnâ€™t match the rhythm of the original song. It does not involve a kind of extended dialogue; itâ€™s a question, some explanation and an answer. Nowhere in that process are there moments where â€œparties involved can say what they really want to say to each otherâ€.
I think this is almost equivalent to being in school and the teacher asks you a question that you answer wrong and they tell you you're wrong in front of your friends and classmates. Some people may be like 'whatever' but others may be embarrassed to be singled out like that. Or another example would be your parent scolding you for doing something wrong in front of your friends.
I think those examples you chose make asking for re-recordings a whole lot more dramatic than it is. Iâ€™ve said it again, itâ€™s â€“just- asking for re-recordings. No one is scolding anyone, no is rubbing anyoneâ€™s face in their mistakes, no one is laughing at anyone. I donâ€™t think people even spare a second thought if they read in a topic that someone else was made to re-record. More differences lie in the fact that the singer has already had the chance to record well and already had the chance to ask for help. They are not â€˜singled outâ€™ for no reason. The mixer is also not the bad person or the scolder, but is in fact the good person for giving a second chance and helping the singer improve.
Again, it's human nature to not like being 'wrong' so if them being wrong is brought to attention it may make them feel bad. And maybe you're right about the 'protecting their embarrassment' thing but I see nothing wrong with doing what you can to prevent people from being upset and embarrassed.
Of course being pointed at your mistakes doesnâ€™t feel good for anybody. But it is not â€˜hurtingâ€™ anyone. Being â€˜upsetâ€™ is nothing but your pride being tarnished or having a temporary dent in your self-esteem. People get over it, and if they donâ€™t they should be helped to get over it. Helping them by showing that it is not a big deal, that is not something to take personal, that it is for the greater good. Taking a simple act as requesting re-recordings and making it a private matter as is saying: â€œWhy yes, you are indeed 100% right to feel upset. But donâ€™t worry, we will ease your pain.â€
If you want to prevent people from feeling embarrassed , then make everything a private issue. Make the recordings private, make the final mix private and disable any honest commenting. The thing is you canâ€™t. You canâ€™t protect people from feelings that come from within themselves. That â€˜hurtingâ€™ feeling and embarrassment, comes from their own self-esteem or their own ego. It is not directly induced by a mixer having a simple request for re-recordings or by a comment someone gives.
Some people are just more sensitive about certain things than others and you can't exactly expect everyone to react the same way in a situation. Honestly, a lot of this is just from my experience and because I am a Psychology major. There is never one right way to deal with every person but I think in this case, the safe way is to bring up re-recording privately.
No, you canâ€™t expect everyone the react the same at first. But you can teach them. And doesnâ€™t require any extra effort or any detouring communication. By not giving re-recordings this special attention and just letting things run as they always have, people will get used to it. They will learn the working methods of this forum. Just as the setting deadlines, just as asking for a beta, just as delivering your recordings and mixes on time. Itâ€™s all part of the process.
There is indeed never a right way to deal with people, that makes taking the safe way just as bad as being straight forward. In the end I guess we differ in the way we look at people. It seems to me that you prefer being careful around people and protect their feelings, while I just donâ€™t care for all that chitchat and like to get to the point. That doesnâ€™t mean I want to hurt, as you know (I hope) Iâ€™m a friendly and helpful person. I just rather give people a friendly kick in the butt to make them get over themselves than putting my time and energy in dealing with their issues.